Have you ever asked for feedback for something in your business – whether it’s a new service, a blog post, a sales page – whatever – and you hear exactly what you DON’T want to hear?

Someone tells you it’s all wrong. They tell you it won’t work. They wonder why you’re even attempting it. They say the exact phrase you are most afraid of hearing.

And actually sometimes, it’s not that obtuse. Sometimes, they just say something in passing – something anyone else would think was harmless. But for whatever reason, it sends you into a tailspin.

All the sudden, your Naggy Second Guesser steps in.

The Naggy Second Guesser is that part of you that starts to think everyone else is right, even though you know deep down in your heart, they aren’t.

But, the Naggy Second Guesser will start thinking that maybe they have something there. Maybe you are crazy for offering this new thing. Maybe the sales page is all wrong.

Then, the Naggy Second Guesser hands the reigns over to the Negative Nelly. And she starts telling you how you’ll never succeed with this, and how everyone else is really right – they know so much better than you. And then, The Great Comparitor has a say, and he talks about how all these other business owners are doing so much better and they’re successful because they have the exact right formula…

ACK! It’s enough to make ya want to chuck it all and go find some dessert island.

You are the one that knows what’s exactly right for your business.

YOU. You know. Deep down, you know what’s right. Your heart is telling you what’s right. It’s up to you to either listen to the Sabotage Committee, or what your heart really wants.

And the big secret is – whatever your heart wants is what’s going to bring you success, joy, fulfillment, flow… all the things you want for your life and your business.

Asking for feedback is important…

It’s tough to work in a vacuum. You can’t always see the forest through the trees. You get so married to what you’re doing, it’s easy to miss spelling errors, missing information, stuff that’s out of alignments…

Sometimes, it just helps to have another set of eyes look at what you’re working on. And it helps to get feedback so that you make sure you’re covering your bases.

But, it’s important to get feedback in the way that feels best to you.

Tips for asking for and receiving gentle feedback:

1. Be ultra specific about what you want. Tell people in very clear terms what you need feedback on. Asking for general feedback leaves the door wide open for whatever someone wants to offer.

Asking for very specific feedback ensures that you protect your heart and your spirit – and won’t allow anyone to tell you they don’t think this will work, or that the whole thing is all wrong.

And quite honestly – if someone does that, disregard what they’re offering. No one has the right to be that brazen about YOUR business and what’s right for it.

2. Take whatever comes in with a grain of salt. Don’t think that just because someone offers feedback that they unequivocally know better than you.

Again – YOU know what’s right for you and your business.

3. Be confident in your work and what you’re asking for feedback on. Check in with yourself. If you’re asking for feedback because what you’re really seeking is validation, hold off on asking for feedback for a little bit.

Feedback and validation are two different things. And if you’re really seeking validation, and you ask for feedback, it’s going to cause the complete opposite reaction within you.

If you want validation, that’s a whole other conversation – seek out a very close friend or family member who will support you and lovingly tell you what you want to hear.

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